My first blogpost regarding this movie can be accessed here:
http://tammymathieu.blogspot.ca/2013/01/choosing-to-judge-is-my-problem.html
This is a more in-dept follow-up.
I connected with the mother, in
a sense – but for me it was the resentment piece.
She resented her mother for
being who she was, carefree.
She didn’t want to understand
her mother’s way (the grandmother’s way);
And so blocked her out.
…and then at the end when she
goes to bail her out, and her mother explains (something like):
“Now that you have children and
know that love, how would you feel if one of them rejected you for 20 years?”
Ah-man that hit me in the gut.
We create our own judgements and
“interpretations” as to what’s ‘right (for us)’ – and then build our lives on
this “belief”.
What really happens – is all in
our heads – we ‘think’ everyone else should see and think the same way, and if
they don’t; then there’s something wrong with “them”.
The whole movie’s “message” (for
me) was about Judgement.
The daughter judging her mother,
and the mother judging her mother (the grandmother);
And the daughter judging the
butcher / boyfriend.
The husband judging the wife (at
the end when he states something like, I didn’t know you all had “that” kind
of fun).
And then the fun part of the
“message” was about “letting go”, that’s the [Peace, Love and
Misunderstandings].
We create judgement upon
ourselves by not “letting go”; we’re blocking our own truths.
Sure in the movie they included
drinking and drugs – and the whole “Hippy” lifestyle – but I think that “stuff”
was just marketing for Hollywood sales.
It just make things easier to
understand “quickly”, since the “Hippy” lifestyle is already a stereotype most
people know about.
Had they marketed the movie about
a Grandmother living a spiritual new-age lifestyle, would it have had the same
effect (and sales)??
Maybe some people really do live
that way, and maybe they don’t – again we’re not to judge, we’re just to choose
to love & understand. …we don’t need to do the same – we just need to “get
over our-self-made beliefs” and Let Go (of everything outside of us).
The carefree piece was a sight
of beauty (for me). Maybe at times, for the movie’s sake – it went overboard
(sex, drugs and …well extras!)
But the foundation for that
Grandmother was there – this was HER story, HER choices.
How many of us can claim to live
our choices, freely… really?
We don’t. And why? Because of
exactly this – we judged her choices and made them wrong.
And why…? She’s not us… and so
this IS the piece we need to Let Go.
This “meaning” is similar to
what the boy says at the end about judgement (having someone want to change
someone else): “that’s your problem” …and not hers. The Grandmother found her
“peace” and is choosing to live it. She understood what her daughter was going
through and knew she had some “releasing” to do, but ultimately she pretty much
just let her do her own thing and just “welcomed” her back into her life with Love.
How many of us could do this,
just welcome “lost” ones back into our lives with open arms – after the hurt
and abandonment? And to choose not to judge “them”…
There were several underlining
messages and I’m sure they spoke differently to each of us, and I’m sure the
“messages” get received very differently at different times in our lives.
I enjoyed it overall, and am
looking forward to hosting Feminine Full Moon Evenings! ;)
