Never Assume Anything - Unless You Can Read Minds

Most people assume that most people think the same way they do - wrong!

Most people assume that if they like something, then others should like it too - wrong again!

Most people assume that if they can do something, then everyone else should be able to do it too - ...again, nope, wrong!

Maybe you think (assume) that someone doesn't want to go out with you because they cancelled out the last time you invited them...

Maybe you think (assume) that if you brought the pink polka dot sweater with the green sleeves that flair-out that's on sale for 85% for your girlfriend, she'll absolutely love it!

Just because you "assume" something in your 'head' doesn't make it a reality - this is simply 'mind-chatter'.

What is 'mind-chatter'? 

Here is Susan Stewart (...by the way, I've been to one of her workshops and she's great!) with her presentation on "Challenging The Stories In Your Mind":

Choosing to challenge your "mind-chatter" forces you to really take a look around you instead of just "winging-it". Winging-it is fine if you're happy - but if you find yourself in constant situations where your feeling 'lost' or 'alone' or 'unhappy' or 'frustrated' or ....whatever the case maybe - maybe it's time to challenge your thoughts and take control.

What you've learnt and observed throughout your life is stored in your mind like little folders -

* This is what I think about chores (if I did too many - then maybe I despise them) 

* This is what I think about the colour blue (like it or don't like it) 

* This is what I think about bees (they scare me since I was stung in the summer of 1985)

* This is what I think about money...

* This is what I think about family...

* This is what I think about...

Whatever your mind stores in these "folders" sometimes it needs to be "challenged".

Just because you were stung by a bee, doesn't mean that every single bee out in the world is out to get you!?

Challenging your "mind-chatter" at times, brings forward great new things - cause you're now forcing your mind to re-evaluate the current "thought" it has about that particular thing and/or it now has to replace it's old-way with the new-way.

Next time you catch yourself thinking something negative or saying something negative about a particular event; a certain food; a certain place or whatever - just stop yourself and - challenge it. 

Try to prove your "negative" thoughts wrong - make your new thoughts, right.

Give it a try and share your comments / success stories!