Showing posts with label career. Show all posts
Showing posts with label career. Show all posts

6/12/2013

Team Membership and Leadership - Points to Ponder

I am willing to give credit where credit is due - however I do not know the source of the below lists. If you know where these points come from or who authored them, please let me know so that I can add appropriate footnotes. Thank you.


8 Points to Team Membership

1. Understanding the Context and Purpose
2. Contribute ideas
3. Listen
4. Accept Decisions
5. Clarify Tasks
6. Co-operate
7. Accept Coaching
8. Demand Review

Team Member Traps

1. Keeping quiet
2. Not listening
3. Getting on with your job regardless
4. Doing other people's work
5. Wandering off
6. Fragmenting the team
7. Proving you were right
8. Ignoring Coaching

8 Points to Team Leadership

1. Explain the Context and Purpose
2. Identify the critical issues (separate from constraints)
3. Encourage contributions
4. Make Decisions
5. Assign Tasks
6. Monitor Progress
7. Coach
8. Review

Team Leader Traps

1. Not seeing members' point of view
2. Getting over-involved in the action
3. Feeling that you have to have the answer
4. Being the technical expert
5. Ignoring social and programming issues
6. Fixating on one issue
7. Fear of standing out


Discover Your Passion!

Wow when looking at back at how long its been since I really started thinking about my passions; defining them; and setting purpose & clarity - it's been a LONG time, years already!

I have discovered that many-a-times my passion focus sometimes shifts depending on how I feel.
Which only reaffirms the ever so popular saying:

Photo Source: http://magnificentquotes.tumblr.com/post/15042283052/life-quotes

23 Keep your heart with all vigilance,
    for from it flow the springs of life.
24 Put away from you crooked speech,
    and put devious talk far from you.
25 Let your eyes look directly forward,
    and your gaze be straight before you.
26 Ponder[a] the path of your feet;
    then all your ways will be sure.
27 Do not swerve to the right or to the left;
    turn your foot away from evil.

a.k.a. simplified version of Proverb 4:23 means, 
"Be very careful about what you think.
Your thoughts run your life."  



Sometimes what I think about, read about, watch on T.V., or learn about online, etc... affects my 'mood' and thus influences my thinking and... in the end, ends up interfering with my True Passion (Purpose).

If you've already discovered your passion and have put it into practice then Congratulations! You sense of fulfillment and joy in being able to live your passion must be reflected in your wonderful work that you do!

However if you're still looking, searching, wondering about "What is your passion?" or if you kind-of get a sense that you know but now are wondering "What am I supposed to do now?" - no worries, you're not alone!

Millions of people live their everyday lives not getting that "sense of fulfillment & joy" in their daily activities or chosen career paths ...But that doesn't mean all hope is lost! Reclaiming your purpose and its chosen path can be a change you choose to make; it's a choice you alone need to take.

Making changes in your life don't necessarily need to be drastic and life-altering; sometimes just looking at things differently can make all the difference! You don't need to quit your job; leave your relationship; jump off the boat to make things happen... For some, yes - some of these drastic changes are needed; however for the majority of us, small changes are all that's needed!

Remember: "Understanding and Learning about yourself & who you truly are are key elements in establishing your true-connection." ~ Tammy Mathieu

Here are a few tips, questions, and quotes to get you started... thinking!

QUOTES:

"Working at a job to build your resume is like withholding sex till you retire." ~ Warren Buffet
Find work in something you are passionate about; live your passion everyday and enjoy it! Why wait till you retire to do what you love - choose to live it, do it as part of your career. And if it can't be part of your career, have your 'job' somehow jump-start your off-work passion. This way your purpose is to keep 'working' to fuel your passion!

"You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with." ~ Jim Rohn
Choose your surrounds (and friends) wisely. You are worth it. How can you grow and evolve if everyone around you is at a lower or same-level as you are. 
You probably won't keep climbing the stairs or continuing on your journey if the ones around you aren't challenged or motivated in the "same" way/things you are. Thus leaving you with a sense of guilt, which probably keeps all of you in the same spot. Shake things up & change things!

"First they IGNORE you,
then they LAUGH at you,
then they FIGHT you,
then you WIN." ~ Mahatma Gandhi
If no one stood out, everything would be the same. Don't be part of the problem, be part of the solution - let go of judgement, and embrace change. Sometimes letting go of what was and what is...  allows for what could be to come.
And remember, not everyone will always agree - and it's not your job to defend, but to understand. You won when you made the choice. 

"Become a self-expert. If you don't know what you're looking for you're never going to find it." ~ unknown
Do you know who you are? What you like / don't like? What are your unique strengths, values and experiences? If you're not clear about yourself - how do you expect anyone else to be?
Yes, you will find work/career/jobs... and do what others tell you to do. Although once you've become a self-expert, you'll then be the one telling people what you can do for them.

Here are a few links / quotes I found relating to "Discovering Your Passion":

Whether we choose to listen to our inner voice is up to us.
Read more: http://www.oprah.com/own-super-soul-sunday/Caroline-Myss-on-How-to-Find-Your-Purpose-Video#ixzz2BlGzHHl0

This video's (interview) is about a Graphic Designer's transition to Photography HOWEVER it's underline message is more profound...http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=LxxFSU6doDo#!

Vocation doesn't come from a voice "out there" calling me to become something I'm not. It comes from a voice "in here" calling me to be the person I was born to be.
Read more: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/What-are-You-Meant-to-Be-Doing-Find-Your-Calling#ixzz23jLFRKw4

Questions to ask yourself:

WHAT IS IT YOU COULDN'T DO WITHOUT / LIVE WITHOUT DOING?
Discover that --> and then LIVE it!!

Fill-in the blanks: "When my life is ideal, I am ..." [try using a ___ing verb here; and use present tense].
Be as clear and precise as you can.
Focus on who you are and what means most to you.

When my life is ideal, I am enjoying complete financial freedom.
When my life is ideal, I am living in the home of my dreams.
When my life is ideal, I am exploring the world.
When my life is ideal, I am sharing my love and wealth.
When my life is ideal, I am creating beautiful art.
When my life is ideal, I am  relaxing and meditating daily.
When my life is ideal, I am welcoming people into my life and into my home.
When my life is ideal, I am playing with loved ones in my beautiful backyard.
When my life is ideal, I am openly connected at all levels with my spouse.
When my life is ideal, I am allowing myself to receive.
When my life is ideal, I am living for the now.
When my life is ideal, I am enjoying life with lots of health, energy, stamina, and vitality!
When my life is ideal, I am having fun in everything I do!
When my life is ideal, I am inspiring others to discover their passions.
When my life is ideal, I am living my passions!

The more you write them down the more some will seem to jump out at you! You'll also feel a deeper connection with some more than others... narrow down your list till you feel comfortable with a for-now Top 5!

Review your Top 5 and apply them as much as possible to your daily activities.
Every few months, do a self check-in to see if you Top 5 are still applicable... they may need a little word-smithing... or if you see yourself NOT living some of your chosen Top 5 Passions, ask yourself why?
Is it really something that still has meaning for you? Should it be in your Top 5? Maybe your list needs a review...

Also as you go-along your journey (daily life) maybe create yourself some "markers" for your Top 5 Passions to help encompass its true value/meaning.
Stay focused and clear. And try to be as positive as possible.
For example:

When my life is ideal, I am allowing myself to receive, accept and trust.
markers:
- I've let go of my past.
- I am accepted by everyone.
- I'm rejoice in giving and receiving.
- I love and am loved.

When my life is ideal, I am creating beautiful art.
markers:
- I express myself via "Art" (photography; poetry; music; sketching; painting).
- I take time to "smell the roses" and "view the sunset".
- I go with the flow.

When my life is ideal, I am enjoying complete financial Freedom.
markers:
- I am able to spend joyfully.
- I am financially abundant.
- I am living in my "house" by the water, in the countryside.
- I am "work-free".
- I am receiving money from various sources / external means.
- I am able to give and help others.
- I am able to travel the world and share with everyone my journey.

3/11/2013

The Art of Execution: Passion to Action

Let's get down to business, and by business I mean: Gary Vaynerchuk


Youtube video of Gary Vaynerchuk via theARTof.com

Are you a hockey player playing soccer? And if so, are you the type to drop the stick and start dribbling or will step-out and go find a pond?

Wow, nothing like just getting right down to the point! Love it, thank you Gary!

Knowing WHO you are and WHAT drives you is indeed an important factor in life - that IS what life should be about; however like most of us know - it doesn't always workout that way. We live in a world where we build ourselves-up to become who we 'think' we should be and we end-up doing stuff we 'think' we should be doing... Yikes! All-this-while watching those who don't conform rise to the top!

Look at yourself in the mirror (as Gary explains), REALLY look at yourself and ... let's get honest here. If you can't be honest with yourself - and truly allow yourself "your" truth - then how do you expect it to ever become a reality.

3/04/2013

Discover the Purpose-Driven Life with Oprah and Pastor Rick Warren

"The best use of your life is to invest it in [something that] will outlast it. And that's what it means to live a purpose-driven life." – Pastor Rick Warren

Here are some great resourceful tips and wonderful ah-ha moments from the Oprah Lifeclass:
Oprah and Pastor Rick Warren: The Purpose Driven Life

These videos are made possible through the wonderful works of Oprah's Lifeclass.


Pastor Rick Warren on the 5 Things That Shape You
Pastor Rick Warren says there are five things that "SHAPE" a person: Spiritual gifts, Heart, Ability, Personality and Experiences. Find out why he believes God never wastes a hurt. Then, Pastor Warren shares his definition of humility with the Oprah's Lifeclass audience in Houston.

Why Pastor Rick Warren Says Surviving Isn't Thriving
Pastor Rick Warren believes everyone lives at one of three levels in life: Survival, Success and Significance. Only when you reach the highest level—Significance—are you living your life with purpose. Watch as Pastor Warren explains how America is filled with people who are just getting by at the Survival level. Plus, why Pastor Warren says the "good life" isn't good enough.


Pastor Rick Warren: What Drives You?
The title of Pastor Rick Warren's best-selling book The Purpose Driven Life was no accident. Find out why he says everyone's life is driven by something—and why if you live for the approval of others, you will die by their rejection.

Learn more and view more videos here: Oprah and Pastor Rick Warren: The Purpose Driven Life

What are your thoughts in watching these clips, did you gain any ah-ha moments yourself?

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Shortly after sharing the above post, I received a comment outside this post saying something along the line of:

Rick Warren is a "Christians are better than Muslims" , supporter of chic fil a's antigay hate mongering "traditionnal families" supporter. I dont think he's in any position to be listened to...but thats just my opinion.

Here is my feedback:

Thank you for questioning and commenting; I always love feedback and discussing various viewpoints! Yes there are various posts online claiming to having Rick Warren declare a bunch of stuff, whether they're true or not are none of my concerns.

What concerns me, what occupies my inner-connections, what speaks to me are the "ah-ha" moments I receive when listening to various people share their messages.

My grandmother shared with us some pretty amazing things and one of them was to always receive the message that is given to you when its the truth. You know its the truth when it speaks to you (your soul). You 'feel' the message. Everything else isn't for you and/or isn't really "your truth" for that moment.

Also when messages are being given these "messages" originate from somewhere... deep from within "you". Sometimes what comes out of our mouth is inspired from a place of greatness, we just feel those moments and allow them to consume us - those are moments of truth. You've accepted to being a vessel and allow whatever message that is felt, come out to be share with those around you. Other times when things randomly come out of our mouth where we end-up with that "taste awful"; these messages, too, come from a place deep-down within. These not-so-nice thoughts or things said are unresolved emotions: resentment, jealousy, judgement, whatever...Once we notice what we've said, that's when we get our 'ah-ha' moments, ourselves. (Sometimes we need to say them out loud so that we can realize that: 'wow did I just say that? Why would I think that way...?)

Everything we think, hear, and say are simply words - we put emotions and judgement on them based on how we 'decipher' (aka judge) the information. What we 'believe' to be wrong might not be to someone else, just as what we might 'believe' to be complete none-sense may turn out to be the next big thing!

Our life journey is a series of judgement calls (choices).

So going back to this Pastor's message... I got inspired by some of his messaging. And so will I reject what he said in-this-moment because of something that has past? If this message speaks to me, why shouldn't I choose to accept it and... move on?

Another story: I read a wonderful book called: "Excuse me your life is waiting" (http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/69947.Excuse_Me_Your_Life_Is_Waiting) I absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE it! I LOVED it so much I've read it twice (so far).

Great message about life, about manifesting what you want, about changing your thoughts and changing your life.

After my first read of the book, I did a search online wanting to find out if she did conferences or even had other books or materials I could look into... blah-blah-blah long story short, she fell sick and I read online that she committed suicide (some say it was assisted). Whatever the case maybe - I was shocked! How could someone with such a great message and inspire so many, choose this path? Could I continue believe her 'story' or 'message'? I was thrown back for sometime...

This is when I picked-up the book again a few months later, and after reading it a second time - I just knew that the message it brings into the world is just that, "a message".

Messages of "truth" are meant for: the people, the world, the person in front of you, for yourself - these messages aren't necessarily from you, but for you. Sometimes we don't know we REALLY can do something unless we actually try to do it - that's when we find out that, "wow, I really can do this?!".

The same is said of messages - sometimes we don't know what lies deep-within us unless we allow it to come out, the good with the bad. These discoveries are where/how we uncover ourselves, and thus are presented with choices, self-questioning:
- Do I keep this belief?
- Where did I get that from? Do I really, truly believe that?
- Maybe this belief worked for me before, but does it work in my life now?
- Am I holding on to this belief for comfort? ...because of someone? ...why is this important to me?
- Why do I think that way, and could I maybe be missing out on a different viewpoint?
- Am I really allowing myself to see all angles or am I being narrow-minded; and why? What's stopping me from opening up? Am I afraid of something... and if I am, what is it?

The process of continued questioning is a great way to self-discovery.

When I hear (listen) to messages being shared 'not' everything gets registered in my mind - and if something strikes a cord with me, it doesn't necessarily mean it'll have the same impact on you. And even if we react to the same message, will its impact truly have the 'same meaning' for the both of us? Probably not, it could be similar - but it probably won't be 100% the-same.

Alright - I digress again... The pastor's message in this part of his life, on this day while he was with Oprah, living this "Lifeclass" ...this moment, I believe was a moment of truth.  What happened before and what happens after, is outside this moment, is outside this message.

On that note, I thank you again for your feedback! Your comment obviously struck a cord with me and unleashed a "message".  Thank you.

So now, I ask again -
What are your thoughts in watching these clips, did you gain any ah-ha moments yourself?

2/07/2013

10 Tips to Make Work Fun

The below is taken from a PDF I found somewhere, I can't even recall where I came from or who provided it to me... either way, the tips shared by Vera Held are Great Reminders to keeping us on track when working. ...sometimes we create our own "drama" by not sticking to the basics.

As always I am willing to give credit where credit is due - if you know who authored the below content, please let me know so that I can reference them. Thank you!



 Ten tips to make work fun

by Vera Held (website: http://www.veraheld.com/index.htm)

Remember the truism: all work and no play, makes Jack a dull boy?

Work can be fun. It's supposed to be an inspired, passionate representative of who you are and what you have to offer skill-wise, talent-wise and personality-wise.

Here are ten tips to make your job more pleasant, more joyful, more fulfilling and ultimately, more fun.

1. Stick to your agenda

Don't get caught up in anyone else's agenda. Doing so will only drain your energy and, therefore, your fun potential.

2. Enjoy all the little moments

Share a morning coffee with a colleague. Laugh over a slight error you made. Try a new restaurant at lunch. Recognize the lighter moments of your day and enjoy them.

3. Be spontaneous

There's a time to stick to your "to do" list and a time to break away. Find ten minutes to sit-in on an exciting project that you’re not assigned to. Take five minutes to read an interesting feature article in your field. These diversions provide a welcome break from your routine.

4. Stay curious

No matter what the situation or project, always ask yourself: "Is there something new here for me to learn?"

5. Get physical

Move around. Stretch. Build in a short walk at lunch. This will help you to stay energized throughout the day.

6. Drink

Keeping a bottle of water at your desk will keep you hydrated and thinking clearly. Aim for eight glasses a day.

7. Think outside the box

Always ask yourself: can I do this a different way? Will it spawn different results if I do?

8. Maintain your interest

Don't allow yourself to feel stuck for too long or it will wear you down. If your job no longer interests you, consider a different career path. Everyone needs a paycheque but there are many ways to get one.

9. Be creative

Try a new idea. Do something you've never done before. Work with a new colleague. Explore. Challenge and test yourself.

10. Don’t sweat the small stuff

Take work seriously but always in conjunction with life as a whole. When something goes wrong, ask yourself: "Is this is a matter of life or death?" If the answer is "No" (and it is 99 per cent of the time) don't panic.


Vera Held, M.Ed. is a coach, speaker, facilitator, writer and the author of the Canadian business best-seller "How Not to Take It Personally." You can reach Vera at (416) 785-3556 or by email at vheld@wwonline.com.
 

MochaSofa, March 2002

1/30/2013

What's Your Style?

The more you learn and understand who you are, how you are - the better a-person you can be to yourself and to others. Understanding what motivates you; touches you; or even triggers fears or anxieties within can only make you a better person. Understanding and knowing your strengths and weaknesses is power.

I really can't recall where I got the following information, so if someone is to be sourced / referenced for the following please accept my apologies - and thank yous at the same time, great work!

To note when reading the following description, you might seem to connect with some or all of the following styles, however you'll probably note (deep-down inside) which of the following is pretty dominate in your life. Also, the primary style that is dominating you at this moment isn't necessarily going to be the style that sticks with you forever... some styles change with age, time, with situations, people... whatever the case maybe, what's important is to understand the 'role' that you take on during these encounters so that you can be aware of what your projecting. If you notice the 'style-mode' you're in and don't want to be in that 'mode' - awareness is key! You can't identify what's happening unless you know it's happening - and that's when you can make choices!

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WHAT'S YOUR STYLE?


AMIABLE (intuitor)

Likes: Appreciation, consistent, cooperative, credit, family, gradual change, harmony, loyalty, security, team player.

Fears: Loss of security.

DO:
Advise of changes well in advance.
Ask about family.
Assure them you appreciate their loyalty.
Stress teamwork.

ANALYTICAL (thinker)

Likes: Authority, caution, critical thinking, details, discipline, orderly, proof, research,serious, standard, precedures.

Fears: Criticism of work.

DO:
Give great amounts of Information.
Give brichures and fact sheets.
Give time to make decisions.

DRIVER (sensor)

Likes: Authority, boldness, challenge, risk, change, direct answers, dominating, difficult assignments, efficient, new and varied activities, power.

Fears: Being taken advantage of.

DO:
Give Bottom line quickly.
Keep informed.
Less chit-chat.
Schedule definite appointments.

EXPRESSIVE (feeler)

Likes: To verbalize, freedom from control and details, popularity people and opinions, status, motivation, recognition, enthusiasm.

Fears: Loss of social acceptance.

DO:
Appeal to status.
Invite to social functions.
Take time to chit chat.
Inform about what is new and improved.

KNOWING YOUR OWN STYLE ALLOWS YOU TO...
PROVIDE THE MOST EFFECTIVE CUSTOMER SERVICE

Keirsey Temperament Quiz

Ever wonder why people don't think the same way you do?
And why wouldn't they... especially if we come from the same environment, same background, same everything...

Our minds are "programmed" differently and hence why we have such a creative world filled with beautiful things! ...otherwise, if we actually did think, be and do everything alike; the world would simply be a Sames Ville.

Let's take another quiz together, this time - let's explore the Keirsey Temperament Sorter experience:

"Established in 1996 by Dr. David M. Keirsey, Keirsey.com emerged onto the world wide web to provide access for individuals to take the Keirsey Temperament Sorter (KTS-II), and gain a better understanding of themselves and others. Keirsey Temperament Theory™ was first written about in the international best seller, Please Understand Me®, (1978) and was followed by its successor, Please Understand Me II, (1998)."


http://www.keirsey.com/

We can learn a little more about the Keirsey Temperament Sorter (KTS-II) here:

http://www.keirsey.com/aboutkts2.aspx
And so after completing my Keirsey Temperament quiz, it states that I fall into the IDEALIST category.

Upon completing my quiz, I also was presented with a brief description of my IDEALIST type and was also offered to purchase various more in-dept interpretation of my temperament and type - reports:
- Classic Temperament Report
- Career Temperament Report
- Learning Styles Temperament Report
- Temperament Discovery Report

4/25/2011

Myers-Briggs - What's Your Type?

Most people, at some point or another, reach a point where they're unsure as to what line-of-work / career path they should pursue. Now-a-days there are various tests, quizzes, heck probably blood-type indicators that will help direct you in some manner... either way choosing a line-of-work / career path isn't something you need to set in stone. Like most other activities (example: sports; fitness program; hobby classes; etc...) it's a "try it out and see if you like it" dabble - although with some career path requiring education first-hand, some of these 'dabbles' might be a little-costly if it turns out that this isn't something you 'see yourself doing' for an extended period of time... hence why a majority of individuals choose to attempt some form of 'testing' to see if their instincts are in-sync with some of the testing results.

And this is where the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) assessment comes in to play.
According to Wikipedia:

"As the MBTI Manual states, the indicator "is designed to implement a theory; therefore the theory must be understood to understand the MBTI".
Fundamental to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator is the theory of psychological type as originally developed by Carl Jung. Jung proposed the existence of two dichotomous pairs of cognitive functions:
  • The "rational" (judging) functions: thinking and feeling
  • The "irrational" (perceiving) functions: sensing and intuition
Jung went on to suggest that these functions are expressed in either an introverted or extraverted form. From Jung's original concepts, Briggs and Myers developed their own theory of psychological type, described below, on which the MBTI is based."

MBTI has a grouping of four opposite pairs, or dichotomies (as some call them), with each of these four groupings providing four dichotomies within each, thus resulting with 16 possible psychological types. Typically

Dichotomies 
Extraversion (E) - (I) Introversion 
   Sensing (S) - (N) Intuition 
Thinking (T) - (F) Feeling 
    Judgment (J) - (P) Perception
"Note that the terms used for each dichotomy have specific technical meanings relating to the MBTI which differ from their everyday usage. For example, people who prefer judgment over perception are not necessarily more judgmental or less perceptive. Nor does the MBTI instrument measure aptitude; it simply indicates for one preference over another.[17]:3 Someone reporting a high score for extraversion over introversion cannot be correctly described as more extraverted: they simply have a clear preference." 
"According to Myers and Briggs, people use all four cognitive functions. However, one function is generally used in a more conscious and confident way. This dominant function is supported by the secondary (auxiliary) function, and to a lesser degree the tertiary function. The fourth and least conscious function is always the opposite of the dominant function. Myers called this inferior function the shadow.
The four functions operate in conjunction with the attitudes (extraversion and introversion). Each function is used in either an extraverted or introverted way. A person whose dominant function is extraverted intuition, for example, uses intuition very differently from someone whose dominant function is introverted intuition."
The Sixteen Types are as follows:
ISTJ
ISFJ
INFJ
INTJ
ISTP
ISFP
INFP
INTP
ESTP
ESFP
ENFP
ENTP
ESTJ
ESFJ
ENFJ
ENTJ

Variations on existing testing methods and/or enhancement to already existing testings are continuously popping-up and keep evolving.

To learn more about Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) visit Wikipedia's page of references:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers-Briggs_Type_Indicator or visit The Myers & Briggs Foundation website:
http://www.myersbriggs.org/.

Here are some web-links where (it seems like) FREE testing is available - however it is always recommended that you seek the assistance of trained professionals when you are ready to pursue this testing seriously.
But in the meantime, if you're looking just for fun - try these out - they're not full-fledge 'real' testing but it'll give you an overall general idea of what you could expect:

Personality Pathways: Myers Briggs Code Cryptic
HumanMetrics: Jung Typology Test (1)Jung Typology Test (2)
Team Technology: Myers Briggs Personality Type
Sonja Elen Kisa: Personality Test

2/10/2011

5 Keys to Accomplishing Your Dreams

Reco McDaniel is a Successful Entrepreneur, Coach, & Speaker. Below is a series of videos made available describing Reco McDaniel's view points on what it takes to go from "Dreams" to "Reality". This series is entitled: 5 Keys to Accomplishing Your Dreams.

Visit Reco McDaniel's website: http://www.recomcdaniel.com/




I first was exposed to this video early in 2011 and was pleasantly impressed at how simplified McDaniel brings about his point of views. "Keeping things simple" is a knack that not everyone is able to accomplish since society embeds in our brains that to be smart you have to be able to talk "complicated"; you have to be "complicated"; you have to be everything else but you.

#1 Have a Great Attitude
"Having a Great Attitude is like having a Navigation System"

"The wise man in the storm prays to God, not for safety from danger, but for the deliverance from fear. It is the storm within that endangers him, not the storm without."

When you decide to make changes to yourself, to your life, your biggest obstacle (biggest challenge) is going to be you. With all of things going on around you, will all the things people are saying, what they're thinking, what you're thinking, what you are telling yourself... in the end - it's all about you making that decision and moving forward with it.

"Navigation System" - why did you buy it? Cause you wanted to go somewhere and didn't know how to get there, right? But the Navigation System is telling you to take roads you're not familiar with, all your friends tell you that there's something wrong with this machine cause they've never hear of anyone every having to take this road either... Fear kicks-in and what do you do, you don't listen to your "Navigation System" and continue to make/take detours, voluntarily. Why then did you bother with this system?

Fear is what guides us so strongly that it controls our lives to the point where we believe it's security. "I'm so afraid to go down that road (cause every single voice in my head is screaming DON'T DO IT!!) that I know feel and believe that maybe it's the right decision for me NOT to do it." The unknown is always scary and it'll always be scary until it becomes "known". Choosing not to "take that road" leaves it as an unknown - thus keeping you living in fear and programming in your brain that it's dangerous, that's it's bad, and that you should always remember (keep memory file) that "that road" is to never be taken. ...And why not? Because you were too scared of this unknown and because you weren't able to step beyond this fear, you've forever now programmed in your head that it's 'bad'.

Now that this is programmed in your head - your brain will attract to it all the necessary details to make this "true" cause your brain needs reasons - you told it what (not to go there) so now it's going to look for the why. ...and so how will it do this... it'll bring to you reasons not to go down that road. All of a sudden you'll start hearing 'bad' stories about that road, you'll hear all the negative things that have happened to people who've taken that road, etc... Why are you only hearing these 'negative' things - because that's what you NEED to hear cause you don't want to take it, you NEED to hear those things to justify yourself as to why YOU didn't go there. "Oh ya, did you hear last week about that snow storm? Thank goodness I didn't go down that road who knows what would have happened... I don't know where I would have ended-up!"

"You weren't born with a spirit of FEAR, you were born with a spirit of FAITH", McDaniel continues to explain. "What matters is that you stay on track and you get to the finish line."

Stopping yourself from getting there is all a matter of "you". No one, absolutely no one, can stop you from doing anything or going anywhere unless you allow them to. Excuses, fears, procrastination, blah blah blah... all of these are simply "mind over matter" habits, emotions, etc. that you must choose to control, self-control.

So equip yourself with the proper navigation system that you need (obviously you're not going to buy road maps for Australia if you are going to be navigating in Canada), activate it and then use it. Just remember however that this unit is just that a unit. It's a "source" that will tell you where you're destination is and it'll tell you how to get there - but it doesn't get you there "magically". You have to still get into your car. You still have to drive yourself there. You still have to stop and put in some gas...

What McDaniel is saying here is: "...you can have a great attitude but if you don't do anything about this great attitude; if you don't do anything about putting gas in to the car, pressing the gas, and getting to where you need to go; it's not going to work for you."



#2 Don't Fight with your eyes closed
Reco McDaniel notes, "One thing people do in life, and the reason why they're not successful, is because they don't recognize things that they should recognize."

- You can only correct what you are willing to confront
- Anything worth having , is worth fighting for
- Most people fight with their eyes closed (in life)
- People want better lives but really don't know how to get it
- Reps in the business not getting trained, going to meetings, quitting but wish for success overnight

#3 Understand that Success is Intentional
- You may have seemed to stumbled onto this business, maybe by accident, but developing your business into a massive success will be on purpose.

#4 Choose State over Fate
- When things happen in life - and they will happen...
   "Do I except this as my fate or as a temporary state?"
- If it is my fate I am finished and I should give up.
   But instead I answered that I am in a state that I could
   fashion, change, & transform I did not succumb, but
   rather persevered and moved forward.




#5 Stop listening to unqualified people
"I am who I listen to", McDaniel continues to explains, "and you are who you hang around."

- Sometimes we end up going somewhere because of someone in the backseat of the car.

What he explains here is that, we continuously allow ourselves to "listen" to other people. Listen to people who aren't going anywhere, people who don't have the same visions, the same goals, ...heck they're not even going where we want to go - but we're still listening. We're the ones driving the car and listening to what this backseat driver is telling us and we're going where they're telling us to go!

- Success is not achieving what someone else wants you to achieve, success is about discovering  your purpose and achieving it within your lifespan.

- The idea of life is to get the things you see on the inside to happen on the outside.

To summarize, in the end - when all things are said and done. Did you do what you wanted to do? Are you who you "see" yourself as being? When you look inside yourself, deep inside, are you "being" you?

When you reach that "end of the road" did you leave behind what you wanted - or were you too busy following someone else who was? ...or going somewhere you didn't even want to go, cause that's just what everyone else was doing...

Think about it...

2/01/2011

Fear of Success: Are you blocking yourself from success?

In the Blog post below Steve Pavlina provides his input/views on how fear can prevent you from becoming successful.

Fear of Success: What will happen if you succeed?

December 4th, 2004 by Steve Pavlina

Sometimes you find yourself with a goal you think you should want to achieve, but you just don’t seem to be taking enough action to reach it. You aren’t really afraid of failure or rejection, the path to the goal seems clear enough and might even be an interesting challenge, and occasionally you’ll make some progress. But most of the time you can’t seem to get into that flow state, and you’re not sure why. This often happens with long-term goals that require intermittent action, like losing weight or transitioning to start a new business and eventually quit your job.

One question I’ve found helpful to ask in these situations is this: What will happen if you succeed? Forget about what you hope will happen or what you fear might happen, but realistically consider what probably will happen. So you achieve your goal. Then what? What else will change?

I’m not talking about giving a 5-second cursory answer, like “If I lose the weight, then I’ll be thin.” Set aside at least 15-30 minutes just to think about how your life will really change once you achieve your goal (with no TV, radio, or other distractions). There are often unexpected side effects that you may not be aware of consciously, but subconsciously they can be enough to prevent you from taking committed action. For example, if you lose a lot of weight, here are some possible side effects: people will notice and will comment about it, other people will ask you for diet advice, you may feel you need to continue with a permanent lifestyle change to maintain your new weight, you may need to buy new clothes, you may become more attractive to others and thereby attract more social encounters (wanted or unwanted), overweight friends might become jealous, your family may resist your changes, you may feel stressed about whether you can keep the weight off, you may worry about the loss of certain favorite foods from your diet, and so on.

It’s rare that a goal is all roses. Success requires change, and change has both positive and negative consequences. Often while people claim to want to succeed at something, the reality is that the negatives outweigh the positives for them. But one way to overcome this problem is to consciously think about what those negatives are, and then uproot them one by one. Uprooting a negative side effect could mean figuring out how to eliminate it completely, or it could mean just accepting it and learning to live with it.

It’s certainly helpful to focus on the positive side of a goal. But don’t forget to take an occasional survey of the dark side and accept that you’re going to have to deal with that too.

Unlike fear of failure and fear of rejection, fear of success can be far more insidious because it’s almost always unconscious. But it’s not fear of success itself that is the problem but rather fear of the side effects of success, many of which may be genuinely unwanted. Fears that are never evaluated consciously have a tendency to grow stronger. The reason is simple behavioral conditioning — when you avoid something you fear (either consciously or subconsciously), you automatically reinforce the avoidance behavior. So when you (even unknowingly) avoid working on your goal because of a hidden fear of success, you actually reinforce the habit of procrastination, so as time goes by, it becomes harder and harder to get yourself to take action. Insidious!

Asking, “What will happen if I succeed?” can solve this problem because it focuses your conscious attention on those fears. Fear has a tendency to shrink under direct examination, making it easier for you to take action. When I say that fear shrinks, another way of stating this is that subconscious behavioral conditioning weakens under conscious scrutiny. I know some people dislike the word “fear” with respect to their own behavior — don’t get hung up on the exact wording; call it “avoidance behavior” if that’s more to your liking.

But an additional benefit is that you can also devise intelligent work-arounds for those fears-made-conscious, some of which may indeed be valid signals of unsolved problems. For example, going back to the weight loss example, if you lose a lot of weight, you probably will need new clothes. And if you don’t have the money to buy new clothes, then that is a real problem you’ll need to address (unless you don’t mind wearing oversized outfits). Left unacknowledged, even a simple problem like this can be enough to subconsciously sabotage you from achieving your goal. But once you examine the situation consciously and figure out a way to deal with it in advance, you’re sending a message to your subconscious that you needn’t fear this problem because you have a practical way to solve it.

Now let’s consider the opposite side. Suppose you ask, “What will happen if I succeed?” and upon considering all the side effects, you realize that you don’t actually want to achieve the goal at all. The negatives outweigh the positives. I encountered this when I made a plan to grow my games business but didn’t seem to make as much progress as I wanted. When I asked this magic question, I realized that I didn’t really want to achieve the goal with all its side effects — what I really wanted was to transition to writing and speaking full time, and further building my games business would actually take me farther from that more important goal. Growing my games business seemed like a goal I should want, but when I really thought about where I’d be if I achieved that goal, I realized it wouldn’t be the success I truly wanted. That was a difficult realization for me… to recognize that my original ladder of success was now leaning against the wrong building. So I actually had to “unset” that goal once I really understood the likely consequences of achieving it.

Even now as I set goals in the direction of writing and speaking as my new career, I recognize that there are big side effects. I simply don’t have the mental bandwidth for two full-time careers. One of the hardest side effects for me was letting go of the goals and dreams I had for my games business. All those creative ideas for new games that will never be… and the would-be players who will never experience them…. But this is outweighed by what will happen as I succeed in my new career. To create a new game that challenges, entertains, and uplifts people is wonderful; however, being able to help people grow fulfills me even more. I found it a very enlightening process to review all these side effects and one by one to acknowledge that I accept them.

What will happen if you succeed? If you lose the weight… get the date… earn the promotion… start the business… get pregnant… quit smoking… become a millionaire… stretch yourself?

1/30/2011

Are you working for money or is money working for you?

Below was my first exposure to Steve Pavlina's wonderful work.

Steve Pavlina is widely recognized as one of the most successful personal development bloggers on the Internet, attracting more than two million monthly readers to his website, StevePavlina.com. He has written more than 1000 articles and recorded many audio programs on a broad range of self-help topics, including productivity, relationships, and spirituality. Steve has been quoted as an expert by the New York Times, USA Today, U.S. News & World Report, the Los Angeles Daily News, Self Magazine, and The Guardian. He is also a frequent guest on radio and Internet radio shows.

Since then (I probably read this mid 2009) I've been captivated by his twists and approaches in breaking human habits and taking life by the bull horns and enjoy the ride. Learning from Steve's blogs [and of course I bought his book Personal Development for Smart People], Steve's take on life broaden my perspective to new heights - who's knows what we're actually capable of doing vs. limiting ourselves in doing!?

I will be sharing quite a few of Steve's blog post, the ones that I can relate to - since some of his topics venture off into "Steve Land" where some of his focuses or discussions aren't necessarily ones that I relate to; which is fine since he is Steve and I am Tammy - and I'm ok with that! :-)

Happy Reading!

Tammy

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10 Reasons You Should Never Get a Job

July 21st, 2006 by Steve Pavlina  

Just for fun I recently asked Erin, “Now that the kids are in summer school, don’t you think it’s about time you went out and got yourself a job?  I hate seeing you wallow in unemployment for so long.”

She smiled and said, “Wow.  I have been unemployed a really long time.  That’s weird…  I like it!”

Neither of us have had jobs since the ’90s (my only job was in 1992), so we’ve been self-employed for quite a while.  In our household it’s a running joke for one of us to say to the other, “Maybe you should get a job, derelict!”

It’s like the scene in The Three Stooges where Moe tells Curly to get a job, and Curly backs away, saying, “No, please… not that!  Anything but that!”

It’s funny that when people reach a certain age, such as after graduating college, they assume it’s time to go out and get a job.  But like many things the masses do, just because everyone does it doesn’t mean it’s a good idea.  In fact, if you’re reasonably intelligent, getting a job is one of the worst things you can do to support yourself.  There are far better ways to make a living than selling yourself into indentured servitude.

Here are some reasons you should do everything in your power to avoid getting a job:

1. Income for dummies.

Getting a job and trading your time for money may seem like a good idea.  There’s only one problem with it.  It’s stupid!  It’s the stupidest way you can possibly generate income!  This is truly income for dummies.

Why is getting a job so dumb?  Because you only get paid when you’re working.  Don’t you see a problem with that, or have you been so thoroughly brainwashed into thinking it’s reasonable and intelligent to only earn income when you’re working?  Have you never considered that it might be better to be paid even when you’re not working?  Who taught you that you could only earn income while working?  Some other brainwashed employee perhaps?

Don’t you think your life would be much easier if you got paid while you were eating, sleeping, and playing with the kids too?  Why not get paid 24/7?  Get paid whether you work or not.  Don’t your plants grow even when you aren’t tending to them?  Why not your bank account?

Who cares how many hours you work?  Only a handful of people on this entire planet care how much time you spend at the office.  Most of us won’t even notice whether you work 6 hours a week or 60.  But if you have something of value to provide that matters to us, a number of us will be happy to pull out our wallets and pay you for it.  We don’t care about your time — we only care enough to pay for the value we receive.  Do you really care how long it took me to write this article?  Would you pay me twice as much if it took me 6 hours vs. only 3?

Non-dummies often start out on the traditional income for dummies path.  So don’t feel bad if you’re just now realizing you’ve been suckered.  Non-dummies eventually realize that trading time for money is indeed extremely dumb and that there must be a better way.  And of course there is a better way.  The key is to de-couple your value from your time.

Smart people build systems that generate income 24/7, especially passive income.  This can include starting a business, building a web site, becoming an investor, or generating royalty income from creative work.  The system delivers the ongoing value to people and generates income from it, and once it’s in motion, it runs continuously whether you tend to it or not.  From that moment on, the bulk of your time can be invested in increasing your income (by refining your system or spawning new ones) instead of merely maintaining your income.

This web site is an example of such a system.  At the time of this writing, it generates about $9000 a month in income for me (update: $40,000 a month as of 10/31/06), and it isn’t my only income stream either.  I write each article just once (fixed time investment), and people can extract value from them year after year.  The web server delivers the value, and other systems (most of which I didn’t even build and don’t even understand) collect income and deposit it automatically into my bank account.  It’s not perfectly passive, but I love writing and would do it for free anyway.  But of course it cost me a lot of money to launch this business, right?  Um, yeah, $9 is an awful lot these days (to register the domain name).  Everything after that was profit.

Sure it takes some upfront time and effort to design and implement your own income-generating systems.  But you don’t have to reinvent the wheel — feel free to use existing systems like ad networks and affiliate programs.  Once you get going, you won’t have to work so many hours to support yourself.  Wouldn’t it be nice to be out having dinner with your spouse, knowing that while you’re eating, you’re earning money?  If you want to keep working long hours because you enjoy it, go right ahead.  If you want to sit around doing nothing, feel free.  As long as your system continues delivering value to others, you’ll keep getting paid whether you’re working or not.

Your local bookstore is filled with books containing workable systems others have already designed, tested, and debugged.  Nobody is born knowing how to start a business or generate investment income, but you can easily learn it.  How long it takes you to figure it out is irrelevant because the time is going to pass anyway.  You might as well emerge at some future point as the owner of income-generating systems as opposed to a lifelong wage slave.  This isn’t all or nothing.  If your system only generates a few hundred dollars a month, that’s a significant step in the right direction.

2. Limited experience.

You might think it’s important to get a job to gain experience.  But that’s like saying you should play golf to get experience playing golf.  You gain experience from living, regardless of whether you have a job or not.  A job only gives you experience at that job, but you gain ”experience” doing just about anything, so that’s no real benefit at all.  Sit around doing nothing for a couple years, and you can call yourself an experienced meditator, philosopher, or politician.

The problem with getting experience from a job is that you usually just repeat the same limited experience over and over.  You learn a lot in the beginning and then stagnate.  This forces you to miss other experiences that would be much more valuable.  And if your limited skill set ever becomes obsolete, then your experience won’t be worth squat.  In fact, ask yourself what the experience you’re gaining right now will be worth in 20-30 years.  Will your job even exist then?

Consider this.  Which experience would you rather gain?  The knowledge of how to do a specific job really well — one that you can only monetize by trading your time for money – or the knowledge of how to enjoy financial abundance for the rest of your life without ever needing a job again?  Now I don’t know about you, but I’d rather have the latter experience.  That seems a lot more useful in the real world, wouldn’t you say?

3. Lifelong domestication.

Getting a job is like enrolling in a human domestication program.  You learn how to be a good pet.

Look around you.  Really look.  What do you see?  Are these the surroundings of a free human being?  Or are you living in a cage for unconscious animals?  Have you fallen in love with the color beige?

How’s your obedience training coming along?  Does your master reward your good behavior?  Do you get disciplined if you fail to obey your master’s commands?

Is there any spark of free will left inside you?  Or has your conditioning made you a pet for life?

Humans are not meant to be raised in cages.  You poor thing…

4. Too many mouths to feed.

Employee income is the most heavily taxed there is.  In the USA you can expect that about half your salary will go to taxes.  The tax system is designed to disguise how much you’re really giving up because some of those taxes are paid by your employer, and some are deducted from your paycheck.  But you can bet that from your employer’s perspective, all of those taxes are considered part of your pay, as well as any other compensation you receive such as benefits.  Even the rent for the office space you consume is considered, so you must generate that much more value to cover it.  You might feel supported by your corporate environment, but keep in mind that you’re the one paying for it.

Another chunk of your income goes to owners and investors.  That’s a lot of mouths to feed.
It isn’t hard to understand why employees pay the most in taxes relative to their income.  After all, who has more control over the tax system?  Business owners and investors or employees?

You only get paid a fraction of the real value you generate.  Your real salary may be more than triple what you’re paid, but most of that money you’ll never see.  It goes straight into other people’s pockets.

What a generous person you are!

5. Way too risky.

Many employees believe getting a job is the safest and most secure way to support themselves.

Morons.

Social conditioning is amazing.  It’s so good it can even make people believe the exact opposite of the truth.

Does putting yourself in a position where someone else can turn off all your income just by saying two words (“You’re fired”) sound like a safe and secure situation to you?  Does having only one income stream honestly sound more secure than having 10?

The idea that a job is the most secure way to generate income is just silly.  You can’t have security if you don’t have control, and employees have the least control of anyone.  If you’re an employee, then your real job title should be professional gambler.

6. Having an evil bovine master.

When you run into an idiot in the entrepreneurial world, you can turn around and head the other way.  When you run into an idiot in the corporate world, you have to turn around and say, “Sorry, boss.”

Did you know that the word boss comes from the Dutch word baas, which historically means master?
Another meaning of the word boss is “a cow or bovine.”  And in many video games, the boss is the evil dude that you have to kill at the end of a level.

So if your boss is really your evil bovine master, then what does that make you?  Nothing but a turd in the herd.

Who’s your daddy?

7. Begging for money.

When you want to increase your income, do you have to sit up and beg your master for more money?  Does it feel good to be thrown some extra Scooby Snacks now and then?

Or are you free to decide how much you get paid without needing anyone’s permission but your own?

If you have a business and one customer says “no” to you, you simply say “next.”

8. An inbred social life.

Many people treat their jobs as their primary social outlet.  They hang out with the same people working in the same field.  Such incestuous relations are social dead ends.  An exciting day includes deep conversations about the company’s switch from Sparkletts to Arrowhead, the delay of Microsoft’s latest operating system, and the unexpected delivery of more Bic pens.  Consider what it would be like to go outside and talk to strangers.  Ooooh… scary!  Better stay inside where it’s safe.

If one of your co-slaves gets sold to another master, do you lose a friend?  If you work in a male-dominated field, does that mean you never get to talk to women above the rank of receptionist?  Why not decide for yourself whom to socialize with instead of letting your master decide for you?  Believe it or not, there are locations on this planet where free people congregate.  Just be wary of those jobless folk — they’re a crazy bunch!

9. Loss of freedom.

It takes a lot of effort to tame a human being into an employee.  The first thing you have to do is break the human’s independent will.  A good way to do this is to give them a weighty policy manual filled with nonsensical rules and regulations.  This leads the new employee to become more obedient, fearing that s/he could be disciplined at any minute for something incomprehensible.  Thus, the employee will likely conclude it’s safest to simply obey the master’s commands without question.  Stir in some office politics for good measure, and we’ve got a freshly minted mind slave.

As part of their obedience training, employees must be taught how to dress, talk, move, and so on.  We can’t very well have employees thinking for themselves, now can we?  That would ruin everything.

God forbid you should put a plant on your desk when it’s against the company policy.  Oh no, it’s the end of the world!  Cindy has a plant on her desk!  Summon the enforcers!  Send Cindy back for another round of sterility training!

Free human beings think such rules and regulations are silly of course.  The only policy they need is:  “Be smart.  Be nice.  Do what you love.  Have fun.”

10. Becoming a coward.

Have you noticed that employed people have an almost endless capacity to whine about problems at their companies?  But they don’t really want solutions – they just want to vent and make excuses why it’s all someone else’s fault.  It’s as if getting a job somehow drains all the free will out of people and turns them into spineless cowards.  If you can’t call your boss a jerk now and then without fear of getting fired, you’re no longer free.  You’ve become your master’s property.

When you work around cowards all day long, don’t you think it’s going to rub off on you?  Of course it will.  It’s only a matter of time before you sacrifice the noblest parts of your humanity on the altar of fear:  first courage… then honesty… then honor and integrity… and finally your independent will.  You sold your humanity for nothing but an illusion.  And now your greatest fear is discovering the truth of what you’ve become.

I don’t care how badly you’ve been beaten down.  It is never too late to regain your courage.  Never!

Still want a job?

If you’re currently a well-conditioned, well-behaved employee, your most likely reaction to the above will be defensiveness.  It’s all part of the conditioning.  But consider that if the above didn’t have a grain of truth to it, you wouldn’t have an emotional reaction at all.  This is only a reminder of what you already know.  You can deny your cage all you want, but the cage is still there.  Perhaps this all happened so gradually that you never noticed it until now… like a lobster enjoying a nice warm bath.
If any of this makes you mad, that’s a step in the right direction.  Anger is a higher level of consciousness than apathy, so it’s a lot better than being numb all the time.  Any emotion — even confusion — is better than apathy.  If you work through your feelings instead of repressing them, you’ll soon emerge on the doorstep of courage.  And when that happens, you’ll have the will to actually do something about your situation and start living like the powerful human being you were meant to be instead of the domesticated pet you’ve been trained to be.

Happily jobless

What’s the alternative to getting a job?  The alternative is to remain happily jobless for life and to generate income through other means.  Realize that you earn income by providing value — not time – so find a way to provide your best value to others, and charge a fair price for it.  One of the simplest and most accessible ways is to start your own business.  Whatever work you’d otherwise do via employment, find a way to provide that same value directly to those who will benefit most from it.  It takes a bit more time to get going, but your freedom is easily worth the initial investment of time and energy.  Then you can buy your own Scooby Snacks for a change.

And of course everything you learn along the way, you can share with others to generate even more value.  So even your mistakes can be monetized.

Here are some free resources to help you get started:
One of the greatest fears you’ll confront is that you may not have any real value to offer others.  Maybe being an employee and getting paid by the hour is the best you can do.  Maybe you just aren’t worth that much.  That line of thinking is all just part of your conditioning.  It’s absolute nonsense.  As you begin to dump such brainwashing, you’ll soon recognize that you have the ability to provide enormous value to others and that people will gladly pay you for it.  There’s only one thing that prevents you from seeing this truth — fear.
All you really need is the courage to be yourself.  Your real value is rooted in who you are, not what you do.  The only thing you need actually do is express your real self to the world.  You’ve been told all sort of lies as to why you can’t do that.  But you’ll never know true happiness and fulfillment until you summon the courage to do it anyway.

The next time someone says to you, “Get a job,” I suggest you reply as Curly did:  ”No, please… not that!  Anything but that!”  Then poke him right in the eyes.
You already know deep down that getting a job isn’t what you want.  So don’t let anyone try to tell you otherwise.  Learn to trust your inner wisdom, even if the whole world says you’re wrong and foolish for doing so.  Years from now you’ll look back and realize it was one of the best decisions you ever made.

Final thoughts

While I wouldn’t recommend starting an online business for everyone, for many people it’s one of the best ways to generate income without a job. It has certainly worked disgustingly well for me. If you’re interested in learning more about this option, please check out Build Your Own Successful Online Business for details.

Link to original Blog post: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/07/10-reasons-you-should-never-get-a-job/

9/18/2010

Using Soft Skills to Create a Substainable Career Strategy

Thought of the day: "I thought I already knew what I needed to do - however after talking to the fishing guide - I realized that I needed to make minor changes. And after making them, I started catching more fish with less effort."

More fish, less stress.

What is this - it's Change Management.

Career Strategy: What's your plan?
Function Plan: Layout of outcome.

Skills: Skill set transfer
How am I going to get there?

Financial Plan: Achieve goals
Financial Planner: Success principal

A Plan: A plan is your career investment.

Compound interest effect:

- Education
- Training
- Networking
- Courses
- Appropriate amount of investment

Managing by Momentum
Ex. GM vs. HONDA

GM: listen to momentum; go with wants and expectations
HONDA: one direction and stayed focus

* Momentum: in the flow without stopping to really pay attention. *

"Better Career is a Better Life"
Managing your choices.


Strategies vs. Plan

Strategies: goes with changes; formulate a plan but accept changes; people-skills / pay attention
Plan: static; timelines

Vision

Where do you want to be?
What do they look like?
Where are they?
Who are they?
** Ask these questions with a view on people who are already "there" (vision). **

Benchmarking

What will I do / What did they do?
What are the steps to take / What steps did they take?
Elements that lead to their outcomes...

Secret Lure: Is it "the" thing needed?

"Be who you are, not what somebody else is."
This means: know who you are; know what you represent; play your strengths.

FORMULA vs. FRAMEWORK

FORMULA: recreate the same thing (me too types); what is changed? (nothing...); I have to be ____________; I have to leave __________; etc.

FRAMEWORK: what is it they've "got" that we don't?; flexibility to change; seeing the "Big Picture"; strengths; sense of "Plan"; where have I been successful?; is there a pattern?; etc.

Ask yourself:
"Is that what you should do? OR Is that a "me too" response?"
** Review your Benchmarks **

Know Thyself: only 20% know their strengths.
Learn about you.
Learn about your strengths.
Learn about your patterns / as it relates to who I am.
** These are your personal offerings. **

Branding / Marketing [of yourself]

- Capacity
- Strengths
- Manage your visibility
- Know your values
** These are your internal and external brandings. **

VALUE: I have "it" so I should get it, right?
Not anymore. This view point is "old school".

"Most wealthy people have a financial plan."

See your career strategy / plan the same way.
Best Practices.

Training: Gives you time to think; develops your value(s); get visibility.

Remember: "Your Network is your Net-worth."

"It's not about who you know... but more about, who knows you."

Hard Skills: MBA; PHD; Technical Elements of a profession; sector specific

Ex. MD = gets you to be a doctor.
PROMOTION ASSUMPTIONS

Soft Skills: Gets you to become the CEO of the Hospital

- What extent are they a team-player?
- Behaviour
- Relationship-centric
- Task-centric
- How do you manage your time?
- How do you manage your tasks?
- How do you manage your relationships?

Communication Skills: How do you communicate with people?

Implementing: Do you carry things through?

Project Management is difficult; it requires a lot of SOFT SKILLS; and conflict resolution.

STUDY: Project Management effectiveness (14% Hard Skills) / (86% Soft Skills)

Challenge: Do "we" buy-in to that? (the Soft Skills)

"Less work just more knowledge and applying it properly."

What can I learn from it / from others?

Mental Health = Mental Toughness

"The new norm is crisis."

What is your ability to manage change?
What is your ability to manage change within yourself?

Response Results = Performance

"Got to think outside the Box but somewhat is the Box too."

I'm not just a Project Manager...
I'm not just a ....

What has been working for you?
What are you?
Re-imaging yourself...

Example: Apple (MacIntosh)
They re-imaged themselves; The re-invented themselves; marketed that they are now different; and engaged a new audience.

Example: RIM & Apple
They don't sell, they help people buy.

The companies used a pitch with the end-result in mind.
They're getting the customer to buy the outcome.
They're not in it to sell the product but believe that the product is there to solve a problem so they're there to help the customer find it and buy it.

Training & Coaching: "Be the Guide"
Take the knowledge and turn it into wisdom.

Training & Coaching is a conversation.

"People need to gain the motivation to ask - the generation of need."

Bottom Line:

"Know what you know & Know what you don't know."

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